Due to the current COVID-19 pandemic, the way services are being run looks slightly different to normal, with a lot of contacts either being via telephone or virtually. Please do not let the pandemic put you off accessing support! If you are experiencing mental health issues specifically relating to COVID-19 please have a look at these helpful links or speak to your Health Visiting Team who will be able to support you.
The baby blues
The baby blues is the most common and mildest form of depression. A few days after the birth, you may feel elated one moment, upset and emotional the next, and cry for no particular reason.
The blues may be caused by sudden changes in hormone levels after birth, the emotional shock of giving birth, the dawning realisation of the responsibility of caring for a small baby, and all the sudden changes that you and your family are going through. The baby blues usually disappear after a few days and you will feel more yourself again.
If your symptoms start in the antenatal period, last longer than the first two weeks, or start later within the first year, you could have perinatal depression. Perinatal depression can start any time from conception through the first year after giving birth.
Signs that you or someone you know might be depressed include:
- a persistent feeling of sadness and low mood
- lack of enjoyment and loss of interest in the wider world
- lack of energy and feeling tired all the time
- trouble sleeping at night and feeling sleepy during the day
- difficulty bonding with your baby
- withdrawing from contact with other people
- problems concentrating and making decisions
- frightening thoughts – for example, about hurting your baby
Many women don’t realise they have perinatal depression because it can develop gradually.
Perinatal anxiety is something that some new mothers experience either before they have their baby or after. Having a child not only causes huge changes to a woman’s body in terms of the physical shock and hormonal fluctuations (which in turn can have an impact on mood), but can also have a big impact on family life, sleep levels and stress. All of these things can lead a person to become more anxious than usual. There are a number of different types of postnatal anxiety, including postnatal generalised anxiety disorder (which can present as a constant state of high anxiety, with worries about everything from your child’s health, feeding, and your ability to parent); postnatal obsessive compulsive disorder (which often involves experiencing distressing thoughts and concerns about harm coming to your baby); and postnatal health anxiety (which is a preoccupation that there may be something wrong with your baby’s health).
Signs that you or someone you know might be anxious include:
- feeling tense, nervous and on edge
- having a sense of dread, or fearing the worst
- feeling like the world is speeding up or slowing down
- feeling like other people can see that you’re anxious and are looking at you
- feeling your mind is really busy with thoughts
- dwelling on negative experiences, or thinking over a situation again and again (this is called rumination)
- feeling restless and not being able to concentrate
- feeling numb
What causes perinatal depression and anxiety?
The cause of perinatal depression and anxiety isn’t completely clear. Some of the factors it has been associated with include:
- a history of mental health problems, particularly depression, earlier in life
- a history of mental health problems during pregnancy
- having no close family or friends to support you
- a poor relationship with your partner
- recent stressful life events, such as a bereavement
- experiencing the “baby blues”
Even if you don’t have any of these symptoms, having a baby is a life-changing event that can sometimes trigger depression and or anxiety.
It often takes time to adapt to becoming a new parent. Looking after a small baby can be stressful and exhausting.
Treatments for perinatal depression and anxiety
Perinatal depression and anxiety can be lonely, distressing and frightening, but support and effective treatments are available. Your midwife, health visitor and GP will ask you regularly about your mental health at each contact in the perinatal period. It is important that you are honest about how you are feeling so that we can offer support and signpost you to a range of treatments. These include:
- Self-help – things you can try yourself include: talking to your family and friends about your feelings and what they can do to help; making time for yourself to do things you enjoy; resting whenever you get the chance and getting as much sleep as you can at night; exercising regularly; eating a healthy diet. For further information on walk and talk group email: mvp.Lewisham@gmail.com.
- Psychological therapy – your midwife, health visitor or GP may be able to recommend a self-help course, or may refer you for a course of therapy, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT).
- Antidepressants – these may be recommended if your depression is more severe or if other treatments haven’t helped; your doctor can prescribe a medicine that’s safe to take while breastfeeding. Often a combination of medication and psychological therapy can be very effective.
Are you a dad struggling with your new baby?
The change into family life can come with challenges for both Mum and Dad. As a new dad, supporting both your partner and your baby, whilst managing all your responsibilities, can be stressful and overwhelming sometimes. Did you know that 1 in 10 new dads struggle with their mental health during this period?
Mind the Dad focuses on dads who feel they could benefit from support with a baby under 2 years old.
What can Mind the Dad group do for you?
• Cope with your new role
• Understand and bond with your
• Improve your family relationships
• Build your confidence as a father
Mind the Dad offer free online one-to-one support and online virtual groups where you can meet other dads in similar situations.
Support and services available for mum and dad
- SlaM (South London and Maudsley NHS Foundation Trust) provides a free 24-hour mental health helpline on 0800 731 2864; http://www.slam.nhs.uk/patients-and-carers/crisis-support. The helpline is staffed by a team of six nurses for patients, carers and anyone who needs advice and help while in crisis or facing difficulties.
- Lewisham Talking Therapies is a free and confidential NHS service that is part of the Improving Access to Psychological Therapies (IAPT) program. They offer a range of free and confidential talking therapies and specialist support to help you reduce depression and anxiety symptoms. We offer a range of short-term psychological therapies to adults 18 years and over, who are registered with a Lewisham GP. You can self-refer here.
- Mindful Mums, run by Bromley, Lewisham and Greenwich Mind, offers supportive five-week courses and drop-in sessions for pregnant women and new mums. For more information, visit https://blgmind.org.uk/lewisham-mental-health/lewisham-mindful-mums/wellbeing-groups/
- Being Dads, run by Bromley, Lewisham and Greenwich Mind, help new and expectant dads or men with parenting responsibility for babies and young children up to two years old to learn more about looking after themselves, managing the changes and challenges of parenthood and supporting their partner. Visit https://blgmind.org.uk/bromley-mental-health/being-dad/ for more information.
- Action for Post-Partum Psychosis http://www.app-network.org/what-is-pp/getting-help/
- Anxiety UK Tel: 08444 775774. Text service on 07537 416905 Email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
- Maternal OCD http://www.maternalocd.org/
- Menucha London is a registered charity in NW London who provides advice and support to empower Jewish Orthodox women experiencing Perinatal Mood Disorders (PMDs). https://www.menucha.info/
- Pre and Postnatal Depression Advice and Support (PANDAS) Tel: 0843 28 98 401 http://www.pandasfoundation.org.uk/how-we-can-help/
- The Association for Post Natal Illness (APNI) Tel: 0207 386 0868 https://apni.org/
- The Motherhood Group is dedicated to share and support the black maternal experience through events, workshops, peer support, projects and advocacy https://www.themotherhoodgroup.com/
- Samaritans are a free, talk service available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Tel: 116 123 https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us.